Most of you already know about the break up of my marriage. Last May was the most difficult month of my life. But what I hadn't realized back then was that the end was only the beginning. The beginning of a great new life filled with wonderful new opportunities!
As I take a close look, I realize how far I've come since May. I have accomplished so much in the last 11 months. Its unbelievable. I believe in myself! I am learning to love myself. I have learned and done things I never thought I'd be able to do. Its such a great feeling! The end of my marriage was not the end of my life. Nor was it a failure. It was only the beginning! The beginning of a better life. A happier life.
With that said, tomorrow and Friday are my divorce court dates. I am sooo clueless. I should of actually posted this a lot sooner. But any advise from my divorcee friends? What to say, what not to say, what to expect etc... ???
Are you two fighting over anything? Assets, custody, etc. i can tell you we fought over everything... I.cluding him wanting me to pay him child support and alimony. I spoke from my heart and wad warned that the judge does not care about anything emotional. Just what he thinks is right for chris rest comes second. If you can't get emotional just keep your mouth shut and answer what you were asked only. Shane did a great Job of ruining it for himself. But know, i still had to help him with things that were not my problem (in my eyes) like his credit cards and money to get an apartment and child support. If you can, let him have it all but Chris (and let chris make his own opinion of his dad, you don't want him to resent you keeping them apart later)
ReplyDeleteAhh yes I have heard horror stories about judges like this! I'm nervous about it. Ok don't be emotional. Good point! The good thing is I am done with the whole emotional part. Thank God. I appreciate your advise sweety!!! Thank you! xoxoxo...
DeletePs... I still cried. Just did not bash him or rant about what was fair. And it all worked out :)
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